God Gives Us More Than We Can Handle
What happens when God gives us more than we can handle? We all admire people that have overcome major obstacles or setbacks in their lives. We love stories about underdogs that have found the courage to move on against insurmountable odds. Is it because each of us have faced similar struggles? Well maybe not to the same degree, but each of us has experienced obstacles in our lives.
So, when we have the opportunity, we frequently provide advice to others in tough situations. Often the words of wisdom we universally send their way is, “God never gives you more than you can handle.” I think we truly believe that statement. It is intended to provide others comfort as they struggle to overcome the challenges and obstacles that they are facing and to also reassure ourselves that we will never face a situation we can’t handle. But, is the phrase accurate?
Maybe the phrase should be, “Yes, I sympathize with your situation; I’m sorry to say, God gives you more than you can handle at times.” So, what then, what can we do when we do have more than we can handle? Here are some positive steps to take.
- Acknowledge to yourself that you have more than you can handle. Putting your head in the sand won’t make the problems go away. You need to turn and face them head on. If you don’t acknowledge your problems, you can’t hope to ultimately find a solution to them.
- Focus on solving real problems. Many people misconstrue real problems with excess baggage they don’t want to let go. Real problems can be solved. Excess baggage creates stress, but may have no real solution. Before focusing on problem solving, decide what baggage you want to continue to carry and what baggage you’re ready to leave behind, so you can focus on real problems.
- Prioritize your problems. Some struggles come with the territory. Life is full of challenges; many aren’t going to go away anytime soon. Instead, prioritize what you can deal with now. Focus on what needs to be done at the current moment.
- Take action. Admitting to yourself that action needs to be taken isn’t enough. Start carrying out action steps. Procrastinating won’t help. The sooner you act, the sooner the problems will be resolved.
- Always be adapting. Change is one of the few constants in our lives. Embrace change; don’t allow it to overwhelm you; and never ignore it. You won’t be prepared to live with tomorrow’s changes if you’re focused on what happened yesterday. Remember, past actions may not work for you tomorrow.
- Be prepared to take alternate plans of action. Current action plans may not work tomorrow. Keep an open mind about possible alternate plans. Always be willing to ask yourself, “What alternate plans can be taken to resolve my problems?”
- Reassess what’s occurring. Always focus on what is occurring in your life. When you reassess, you simply retest the current life situations you are facing. If your life situation changes, then you need to revise your problem-solving process; even starting the whole process over, if need be.
- Make mistakes. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. If you’re not making mistakes you’re not taking action steps. Action is all about learning and mistakes can be a great learning tool.
- Take ownership of bad things that occur. Bad things happen to everyone. Not everything bad that happens to you is your fault. But, you need to take ownership of those bad things that are your fault. Taking ownership doesn’t mean you will dwell on those bad things, it means you will be truthful with yourself. This can help you to understand how they occurred and stop you from doing the same mistakes in the future.
- Move solved problems to your past. Once solved, you need to move those problems into the past. Moving them out of your current thought process frees up your mind for other more important things.
Having more than you can handle isn’t fun for anyone. But, you don’t need to settle on and accept your current situation. Take steps to move past the obstacles you face. Each obstacle should be evaluated, steps to remove the obstacles should be undertaken, and you should move forward. Never settle with your current situation, especially when God gives you more than you can handle at the current moment.